If you are gay or lesbian and you are dissatisfied with your lot in life, you can domandarti if you really can change your orientation from gay to law. And live happily ever after. Well, research so overwhelming supports the Association 'psychiatric American; position s: the answer is no. You can live as a straight person… anyone can play the act… but won 't really is a person straight. It is just installandosi and your future husband for many pain and short-change. Most of the "research" that the installations remedial treatment of complaints is anecdotal, based on testimonials and is polarised which are sponsored by organizations that provide "therapy." So, here 's the biggest demand. Why would you like to commute? What rendendogli been unhappy? The largest factors are usually fear of rejection by family and religious belief. Many times these factors are very closely intertwined, if your family 's attitudes are shaped by those religious belief. Another reason may be the general social acceptance. Hey, nobody wants excluded. Where that leaves if you are gay or lesbian? You can 't change your orientation. You are unhappy in your situation. So, change your situation. Start with the examination of your attitude towards her. You have bought into all messages that you heard? Realmente believe those messages? Can your family and religion is wrong about homosexuality? It is possible the company is wrong about homosexuality? YES. Of course it is. The families, societies and religions may be wrong. Let 's an analogy ago. In the south, 200 years ago, slavery was considered a perfectly moral: if you were white. The preachers bear slavery from the control panel, citante the numerous biblical examples available. In fact, most straight people in the community were the largest slaveholders! We come 180 degrees in our thinking starting from that time. We know that slavery is atrocious. A minister legitimate not ever use the Bible to support slavery today. Here are some other examples of returns of the church: the food of meat on Fridays used to be a sin, the celibacy of priests was not given until 1139, the land is now conceduta for not being the center of the universe (fun now, but punishable by death in 1600 's). So yes, religious belief is not static. They can be and are variable over time for various reasons that fit into the church or political direction. The takeaway is this: if we know in your heart that you are gay or lesbian, who have been generated this sense that you are a good person, that conducete a good life… know that if… then both peace with her. If you can not reconcile those thoughts, get the help: not to change your sexual orientation, but rather embrace it. Release of your self-hatred, embarrassment and pain. Accept who you are because you have been generated. Go in peace.

Patricia Cheney